Let’s get one thing straight. If you are going to try and get your ex girlfriend back, you must absolutely be willing to put a significant amount of effort and time as it is pivotal to the success of your efforts.

Just like cars are driven by humans, Women are driven by emotions. There is nothing you can do about it, but understand and embrace it, and if she was the one to end the relationship its probably that her emotional needs were not being met in the relationship. If you are really serious about getting your ex girlfriend back you have to show her that you have changed and are willingly able to give her all the emotional support and time that she requires.

The first step is to contact her. Contact her as you feel it is appropriate. Take the time to reflect and change your ways. Also remember that there is a possibility that other men are waiting in line. You can contact her by email, text message, phone call or even email.

Whenever you talk to your ex girlfriend, remember that it is vital to listen and pay attention to what she is saying. The two main reasons for this are 1) it shows her that you respect and acknowledge what she has to say (this is very important as it makes a female feel wanted, important and most importantly it fills their emotional desires). The second reason is to give you the time and foresight to read between the lines on any subtle non-verbal cues she might be implying or sending out.

Try not to play games and waste your ex’s time. Give her the subtle signals about your intentions to get back with her. Be careful when doing this. Make sure you don’t not give away all your cards yet make sure you are sending out a strong yet subtle signal as to your desire to get back with her. If you lay out all down at once you pose the risk of becoming extremely vulnerable and run the risk of being hurt.

Remember that being attentive and open to her emotions always helps. It may even help to flirt a little. Nothing flatters a woman like feeling desired.

Depending on your relationship especially your time apart be mindful of your shape. Try to stay in a approachable and fairly good shape. Remember that an opportunity lies here in the fact that you will catch her attention if you are looking better than before.

Please remember that when you are getting back with your ex, make sure that the changes you have made are sustainable and that you will be happy with this different self of yours. If not do not put yourself and your ex at risk of even further relationship conflict and heartbreak.